"Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize?...Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible. I therefore so run, not as uncertainly;" 2 Cor 9:24-26

Exploring Adulthood

Posted by Emma on January 9, 2011 | Filed under: Attitude,Character,Responsibility

What makes an adult? Many different factors make up an adult but I think one of the biggest is responsibility. Adults are responsible even when they do not want to be. I’ve been thinking a lot about being an adult and what it means.

Adulthood is not something you suddenly reach, it is something that is gained as you mature and grow older. Different people reach it at different times. A very few will be come adults during their teen years as responsibility is thrust upon them and they step up and take that responsibility. Some will reach it in their early twenties as they start facing life on their own. Most seem to reach it in their late twenties as they get serious about raising a family and building a good future. Few do not reach it until even later than that. Teenagers often do not realize that adulthood is something earned not attained by age. They want to be considered adults but are not willing to earn it.

So what is it that distinguishes an adult from an adolescent? It is the choice to take responsibility seriously and not shrink from it. It is the realization that you have to do what you are suppose to without complaining. It is the knowledge that the world does not run without work and that you have to do that work, day in and day out no matter what. It is putting others ahead of yourself and their interest before yours. It is a recognition of the fact that life is not fair and you cannot live based on fairness. It is reaching past petty emotions and being bigger. These are just some of the aspects that make up an adult.

Being an adult is looked upon as a something to be wanted. Something that is wonderful. It is not all that it is cracked up to be. Adulthood is hard, it can be a lonely life, a painful life, a weary life. There are many times you have to go when you want to stop, you have to do when you want to desists, you have to work when others are having fun, you have to work so others can have fun. Teenagers often do not see or realize this side of adulthood. They see the privileges and freedoms that adulthood seems to offer, but it only offers those because along with responsibility comes a knowledge of what you can or cannot do. Responsibility brings a balance to freedom. The pain and cares of adulthood also bring a balance to freedom. The freedom or privileges adults seem to have are not the carefreeness children experience. Often adults cannot exercise their so called freedoms or privileges because they do not have the time. They are busy taking care of others and their own wants and desires get pushed to the side. Teens often cannot except that side of adulthood and thus cannot earn the title of adult.

The world needs adults. Without them their would be chaos and nothing would get done. If you consider all that the adults in your life do and all the responsibility they take so that you can enjoy your childhood and your young adulthood, it is incredible. Adults keep things running, they take on the responsibility of seeing that things are done and people cared for. They help you have a good life. You should be thankful for that and do something to help them. The world needs adults but it is hard on the adults.

Young people need to make the hard decision to raise above themselves and take up the yoke of adulthood. They have to decided to accept responsibility, to do the work and then some day in and day out, to look out for others ahead of themselves, to go beyond their emotions and touch the lives of others, to not complain when things seem to be going wrong, to work so others can have fun, to accept the challenges and hardships of adulthood and not go back. It is not easy to do those things and make that decision.

You have to be fully determined if you are going to earn the title adulthood. That title is not earned over night, or in a week, or a month, it often takes many years to reach that point. You have to go and go even when you do not fit into the camp of adulthood or that of a adolescent, and believe me you will fit into neither camp for awhile if you chose to earn the title of adult. It is challenging and lonely to earn the title and it is challenging and lonely for a long time, but if you preserve you will get there. You maybe alone as your peers may not follow you but overall I believe it is worth it.

There is a lot more to adulthood than I have written here, some of it I am still figuring out, some is challenging to put into words, it is an interesting adventure to discover from experience what an adult is. Overall I am enjoying it through it’s challenges and rough times. Adults are a gift from God to everyone on earth to keep things in order and bless the younger generation. I am grateful God gave us adults and that I can become one.